YouTube Introducing Gail

There’s a new Youtube post with me in it, you can read about it here:

http://tiagail.wordpress.com/2009/01/01/prolific-production-begins/

Happy New Year!
Gail

Freedom from Fear

Fear:
The bodymind bracing against some possible future pain.
The thoughts and emotion we experience when the ego/bodymind is trying to protect us from pain.

Worry / seeking reassurance / seeking understanding:
Forms of fear; the bodymind’s attempt to console fear; bracing against the pain of loss of some universal need (security, companionship, deep connection, etc)

Freedom from fear comes
not from reassurance, not from understanding, and not from solution. Freedom from fear doesn’t come from ascending into peak states of meditation.

These things only hide the fear.

Remove the reassurance, understanding, the solution, or the peak state and the fear returns.

Freedom from fear only comes when we confront it or embrace it. when we open to the thing we’re bracing against, when we embrace it, fear evaporates.

Confronting fear / opening to it means to
lean into the emotion of the fear – feel it – and then
a.) connect with the universal need/yearning at the root of it and
b.) release the “ick” of it (grieve the pain of the yearning) until
c.) realization of Infinite Self emerges and the fear naturally evaporates.

Embracing fear means to do this cycle:
a.) invite the thoughts of the ‘worst case scenario’
b.) ask, “ok, so? and then what?”
c.) repeat until realization of Infinite Freedom emerges and the fear naturally evaporates.

Confront fear or embrace it, and what you’re left with is the Face of Spirit – conscious connection to the universal need, free of the emotional charge.

From this place your state is resourceful, grounded, able to take effective action, and able to make powerful requests for Emergence.

Anything else is consoling fear, capitulating to fear, and acting out of being hijacked by fear. All of these are forms of personal slavery to fear.

For many of us the ultimate fear is fear of death, ultimate loss.

While we brace against loss or pain, we are slaves to our fear.

Confront fear. Release the bodymind tension.

Do It!

1. Name one fear you have.
2. Choose explicitly – do you wish to be a slave to your fear, or free of it?
3. Choose which method you’re going to use to free yourself from your fear: to confront it, or to embrace it.
4. Use the appropriate practice above. Get help; it’s hard to both go deep in doing the work AND also holding the process container. Get someone else to hold the process.

For more information, or to receive support to evaporate fear, call Toll-Free 1.877.535.5438 .

For more practical strategies on conscious living, and to receive a free Ebook, click here.

8 Ways to Resolve Conflicts Peacefully

This is taken from a magazine clipping – unfortunately I don’t know the magazine or the author of this clip! Please tell me if you know the source!

Hopefully you’ll find it inspiring anyway!

For more info, check out this page.

Enjoy!
Gail

• Remember that all human beings have the same needs, such as acceptance, support and independence.
• Check your intentions to see if you are as interested in getting their needs met as you are your own.
• Notice if you are making a request or a demand.
• Instead o saying what you DON”T want someone to do, say what you DO want.
• Instead of saying what you want someone to BE, say what action you’d like the person to take.
• Before agreeing or disagreeing, tune in to what the other person is feeling and needing.
• Instead of saying no, say what need prevents you from saying yes.
• When upset, think about which of your needs are not being met, and how to meet them, rather than focus on what’s wrong with other people.

The Doctrine of Awakening

We can’t keep doing things the way we’re doing them.

While our systems are based in fear, our systems are full of solutions based in hidden agendas, desires for control and the desire to benefit even if the reward comes at the cost of the system at large.

While our systems are based in fear and the symptoms of fear, we’ll keep manifesting the same failures over and over.

While our solutions are not held accountable to the systemic costs, we’ll keep emerging systems that ultimately will create more problems than the fixes the solution was meant to provide.

While we continue to ignore the consequence of creating solution out of fear, and while we continue not to account for the impacts of our solutions on flows across the system, as a species we are destined to fail.

We’re immersed in scads of examples.

In the housing system, banks took advantage of the system in order to profit.  Digital resources were created where actual resources didn’t exist, benefitting the people at the top while the people at the bottom ultimately lose:  if someone can’t afford a mortgage and go into foreclosure, they lose their house, they lose their credit rating, they lose the emotional costs, the employers lose the attention of the worried employees, everyone loses.

Look at the economic system – wall street investors and brokers took advantage of the system.  Like the housing owners and the dot-commers, value was attributed that was far greater than the actual value of the resources within the system, out of a profit agenda.  When the bubbles burst, dot-coms failed, the housing market failed, and now the numbers on wall street are plummeting.

Look at the American political system.  Voters deal with the political dance of negative campaigning and empty sound-bites.  Instead of system transparency and leaders who act congruently and consistently, we get tap dancing leaders who say one thing but do “Who Knows What” because ultimately they’re interested in control and their own agendas.

Look at global warming.  We create solutions based out of profit motives and inattention to the systemic whole and the system starts to fail.

Look at the peak oil crisis.  We’re running out of places to drill, we’re running out of oil stores.  We tapped a finite resource with a profit motive without attention to the greater system and now the greater system is depleted beyond our capacity to restore it.

Look at the disappearing rain forests.  We’re draining the very heart that makes oxygen abundant on our planet, out of profit motives hungry for land and trees.  While we tap the resource with a profit motive without attention the impact on the greater system the greater system suffers, and then we all pay the price.

Look at the emerging water crisis.  Even in the abundance of America, major populations like southern California and the south western states of Nevada, Arizona and Colorado teeter on the precarious edge of a water crisis.  Smaller populations, such as American Indian populations within those areas live daily without running water and sufficient water for sanitation, cooking, or survival.  Our water tables are low and without restoration, increasing numbers of wells are running dry, fresh water is increasingly scarce on the planet, and yet Americans per capita consume (and wastes) two to SIX times the water of other countries.

We’re asleep to the pending doom of this vital resource, and we don’t even know we’re sleeping.

Look at corporate America.  While the Enrons profit the stockholders at the expense of employees, the Enrons are destined to collapse.  While companies lay off thousands to sustain shareholder profit, public trust falters; lack of employment means public resources run dry for investing, resources for purchasing houses run dry, the housing market fails on faulty loans, banks crash and the stock market plummets.  Economies worldwide falter.

When will we learn?

When will we choose another way?

Only by revealing our pandemic of fear, and only by improving our system accountability, will we have hope for survival as a species.

The Silent Pandemic of Fear

Our systems, everyone, operate out of a foundation of fear.  We are a population living with extreme functional capacity, living psychotically on top of a profound undercurrent of fear.  Fear for survival, fear for order, fear for providing for our families, our communities and our countries – these are just a few of the foundational fears we unconsciously live on while choosing our actions.

Look at our survival fear and fears that seek greater profit.  From this fear we have created a system of human animals running out the time of life on hamster wheels, exhausting lifetimes of energy for scraps of hope that we’ll have enough to pay rent and feed our families.  We smother the fear that something will happen to our health, because we don’t have enough to account for that.  we are enslaved to our jobs and our overwork because we fear if we don’t do it, we won’t be able to provide for our needs or the needs of those around us.

This is just one example of how fear-based solutions ultimately and consistently fail.

With fear at our core, we seek profit and control.  As human animals living on top of fear, we seek to manipulate circumstances to our advantage.  From this root of fear we emerge profit motives, personal agendas, desires for personal gain, desires for control, and solutions that deplete the system at large.

No systems that are emerged out of this foundation of fear will work.  It will always come crashing down.

The Solution

What we have to learn, what we have to practice, what we have to develop as a habit, are both spiritual and practical solutions.

Out of our desires for personal gain, we neglect to practice articulate measures of (and accountability to) how our systems are affected by the solutions we create.  We don’t practice proper accounting for the costs of our solutions.

We need:

- solutions emerging only from spiritual equanimity and freedom
- proper accounting for how solutions impact flow systems

We can no longer afford our ignorance of the long-term impacts and system costs.  We can no longer afford the costs of solutions that attend to a narrow margin of profit motives while neglecting the system at large and the impacts to those systems.

While our systems, everyone, operate out of a foundation of fear, our solutions for survival and social order will ultimately and always fail.

Better Solutions – A Two Part Plan

Spiritually we need to shed light on this mostly-unconscious, mostly buried pandemic of fear.  Solutions that emerge out of fear need to be replaced with habits of healing and solutions emerged out of the equanimity and presence of greater knowing.

We need to replace our disconnection from our fear and our disconnection from that which is greater than ourselves with awakening to habits of profound self-connection and habits of continual connection to Source wisdom.

We need to awaken to habits of attending to fear by pairing fear with griefwork and healing, and allowing our knowing of greater truth to emerge – the greater truth that there fundamentally is no such thing as unsafety.  Only from this knowing can we create practical systemic solutions that are less likely to unravel under the weight of abuse rooted in a desire for control, personal gain, or fulfilling hidden agendas.

Practically we need to generate structures to provide tangible minimums that account for the system at large.  Systems for order and survival, including currency systems, need to be conscious of and account for:

- life alienated or life serving – to what degree is this solution directly in service to universal needs across the system, to what degree does this solution interrupt flows and deplete universal needs across the system

- direct service strategy chains vs/ indirect strategy chains = the larger the number of steps in a system, the more likely the system will contort under the weight of human mistakes.  With shorter, more direct strategy chains for serving needs, the more likely the solutions will produce positive outcomes in the long-term and for the system at large.

- flow systems – money (currency) is meant to support flow of products and services across miles, countries, languages, etc.  However there are other flows that are affected by the solutions we create.  If a nuclear power plant dumps waste into water, not only are flows of electricity and energy impacted by the company, but so are the water flows.  What are the various flows we live among, how do we measure them, and how can we hold individuals, organizations, companies, and countries accountable to system-wide flows?

- accounting for upward spirals outside of the main system – solutions can exponentially benefit greater and greater numbers of people and flows, or solutions can benefit one flow while exponentially costing other people and flows.  What kinds of solutions create upward spirals of exponential and increasingly wide benefit?  What kinds of solutions create downward spirals of cost and depletion across flows while benefitting only a small number?

If you want to:

• talk more about this doctrine
• discuss the four items above
• learn more about alternative currency systems
• learn how to integrate new habits that replace fear with equanimity and transpersonal awareness
• see practical ways to emerge solidly-based solutions rather than solutions based in fear

…email me or call me.  Gail at integrated coaches dot com  – my phone number is on the TIA – The Integrated Approach and the Integrated Coaches websites.

With love and light,
Gail Taylor

The TIA(tm) Path

2008 Sept 24th – The TIA(tm) Path

- We’re ultimate creators. Everything we experience is a holographic product of our inner world.

- Address issues internally and external “reality” shape shifts.

- The formula for Change, Transformation, Evolution, Self-Actualization, Enlightenment, World Peace:

Bodymind Contractions … Resistence … Fear
*
Authentically Addressed … Evaporated … Resolved
=
Degree of Change, Transformation, Evolution,
Self-Actualization, Enlightenment,
World Peace

- The portal to resolution is “needs consciousness”.

- The steps to resolution can be found in type dynamics and “3-Breath Work”

- We need community of practice to go deeper and see deeper than we can see / go by ourselves. The eyeball can’t see itself. Threshholds of challenge beyond our skill require others holding the container while we do the work.

- Bodywork is critical for enhancing release. Listening to the body locates release opportunities.

- We are all Face of Spirit, the expression of It more or less contorted through ego / personality / bodymind contractions. For purer expression of Spirit, resolve / attend to contractions.

- As purer Spirit, we gain access to 3 bodies of awareness, influence and guidance.

- At birth we have a “dharma”, a set of bodymind challenges, a set of natural inclinations to contract. With life experiences we can gather more, especially if in painful experiences we recycled pain rather than released it.

- To see your contractions:
……..look to your recurring issues / challenges
……..look to your rules / contractions
……..look to your type preferences / spiral center of gravity / birth number, etc.
……..look to your discontents / unfulfilled dreams

- Thoughts reveal emotion. Emotion is an indicator of health, a symptom of resolution or the need for resolution.

- Through best practices on 7 aspects we can consciously peel away our own bodymind blocks to Show As Spirit and shine as the Lights We Most Deeply Are.

- Even as contraction, even as the unconscious playing out of dharma, we are teachers and angels for each other.

- The fuel for the hard work of Change, Transformation, Evolution, Self-Actualization, Enlightenment, World Peace – is Gratitude and Celebration.

- All reality is a liquid dream, a holographic representation of contraction and resolution. With skill you can transform “reality” overnight.

- This can be easy. It takes action, it takes commitment, but it can be easy. When we’re on track, even release that feels “hard” feels like “sweet pain”.

- All the challenges we face personally, interpersonally, culturally and globally come back to Spirit reaching toward evolution, and producing symptoms to show where there is contraction. We have everything we need to resolve all world issues. All we experience today globally – wars, starvation, economic crises, all come back to Spirit Emergent trying to resolve contraction.

If this inspires and/or confuses you, and you want to learn more, please email or call me.

If this makes sense to you and you want to collaborate toward change, transformation, evolution, and enlightenment in yourself, your relationships, community, or on the planet, please email or call me.

Humbly yours
and in Sacred Service,
– Gail

Copyright 2008 Gail Taylor. Copy permission granted to fully in-tact, unmodified copies of this post that include reference to Gail Taylor and http://www.TheIntegratedApproach.com.

Both/And and John’s Brilliant Reminders

This was so delicious I *had* to include it as a stand-alone post.

This was a comment about my post here.

And what I wrote in response.

Cherishing the multiplicity of things,
Gail

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John Curtis said…

The Secret is the latest and by far the worst example of a HIGHLY profitable trend where self-help gurus with fabricated new age titles and little relevant education, credentials or legitimate expertise brainwash us into believing that they know what is best for us, our marriages and our families.

Often their only contribution to society is introducing some exotic sounding, new age philosophy. However, they often cleverly form an incestuous group of like-minded “experts” who cross-promote each other by swearing their success is due to following the beliefs of another member of their “cult!” All the while, they ply the airwaves jockeying for an ever-larger audience by appearing in the national media to garner third-party endorsements.

The Self-Help Movement has become the Self-Destruct Movement by diminishing or destroying our critical thinking skills to choose and evolve on our own. We have given up the freedom to build healthy lives, marriages and families based on our unique history and life experience. Instead many victims, blinded to the value of their own life experiences, are attracted to the latest secret in self-help, in an attempt to find out what they should think, feel and how they should act… this is the definition of a cult.

The solution is a return to our (common) senses! The best way out of this learned “self-helplessness” is to go cold turkey. Stop following ALL self-help gurus now. Begin, instead, to reclaim your natural, God-given ability to think for yourself. The common sense that was once readily available to all of us is still there free of charge and waiting to be applied to just about any challenge we might face in life… all you have to do is use it.

Please, let’s all work together to stop the flock of “sheepeople” who blindly move from one UNPROVEN concept to the next, looking for the answers to life’s challenges that you already possess and that is the OBVIOUS!

September 7, 2008 3:07 PM

Gail Taylor – TheIntegratedApproach.com said…

I relish your critical thinking and discernments, John. Brilliant.

I know this probably doesn’t apply to you, but I’ve heard lots of people bashing the work of some-person-or-other who’s doing their best to contribute (my friends Ken Wilber, David Deida, Marshall Rosenberg, and many other thinkers I know were all bashed by many), somewhere or other.

Even the writers of “The Secret” are TRYING to make a contribution.

And some people DO benefit from that bit!

And that bit, combined with many other bits, I believe, moves the world needle of consciousness forward through evolution.

I wonder, of all of the people bashing one thing or another, how many of them are capable of “Both/And” thinking.

(Which reminds me, I had a post I wanted to write about that! Thank you for the reminder!!)

Both/And – y’know, instead of Either/Or thinking (ex: This Sucks, That’s Great, Run From All That Sucks)…(aka Good/Bad Right/Wrong duality-based arguments that can happen ad-infinausium even beyond war and death) –

Both/And – This AND that. Taking the gold nuggets that DO work for you, and just using the “law of two feet” on the rest (walk away and go find other nuggets that work better for you — and leave what you don’t like to the people who DO benefit – to benefit).

In other words, remembering that just because it’s not the “end-all” for you, doesn’t mean it HAS to be the “end all” at all. For anyone. And that doesn’t make it worthless.

But then again, our world wouldn’t be what it is without people pushing against things they don’t love and resisting them with high-volume screaming warnings; where else would we find opposing views to chew on?

Anyway, thank you for reminding me to me to post the Both/And concept! I cherish your intelligent insights!

And thank you for reminding us all to think!

Admiring your contribution and your willingness to put it out there!!

Sending blessings,
Gail

Transform "The Secret" To Results in 30 Minutes Or Less

Are you one of my friends who’s hooked on “The Secret”?

Or are you a critic of “The Secret”?

I like “The Secret”, within reason. Just like the book, “Think And Grow Rich”, and the book, “The Science of Getting Rich”, I won’t deny that how we think effects what we do and how we do it. Where ever we go, there we are, and there our beliefs are that come with us.

However, I also think that the concept, “Thoughts are Things” only partly gets the job done. I’ve lots of friends who subscribe to, “The Secret” who are still “trying” to get what they want.

Like many other practices, I think it’s necessary, but insufficient.

Here’s what I mean – in short –

• Affirmations without action risk producing nothing but self-chatter.
• Action without connection to the driving value risks becoming tedious drudgery and ‘have to’s.
• Understanding the driving values without *experiencing* it viscerally risks living as cognitive reporting without the life juice of emotion.

You’ve heard me talk about this quad before (values, thoughts, action, emotion) if you’ve taken my 10-Minute Manifestor ™ course.

And you’ve heard me talk about the whole system of you (mind, body, spirit, heart, gut, action, environment) if you’ve done anything with The Integrated Approach (TIA – “TEE-ah”).

Meanwhile, here’s a way you can Transform “The Secret” To Results in 30 Minutes Or Less!

WHAT TO DO:

1. Decide what it is you want to manifest. Your response might be something like, “more love”, “more money”, or “more delight about my job”.
2. Transform the “more” into measurables. How will you know when you’ve landed? How much? By when? Your response might be something like, “A life partner before Dec 2009″ or “$10K more income by Nov. 15th” or “I rank myself at a 7 or above of delight (on a scale of 10) about my job by this time next week”.
3. Name 1-3 underlying values you’re trying to fulfill with this desire. (For a list of core motives, underlying values, universal needs, go to page 2 of this document)
4. For 90 seconds, experience the joy, delight and fulfillment of what it looks like when you’ve ALREADY experienced fulfillment of #1. What do you feel? Where in your body do you feel it? What’s different about your posture, your emotions, how you think, how you talk, or how you act? How are others treating you differently? How does that feel? Stay with this until you experience the delight at a 7 or above (on a scale of 10).
5. This is the important part: As soon as you have hit your 7-or-above on #5, go do something right now that is precisely what you’d be doing when you are already fulfilled on this thing that you want. This isn’t about doing something *toward* getting what you want. You can (and likely will) do that later. This is about embodying that you are already there, right now. If your desire was for “more love”, maybe right now you’ll spend 10 minutes journaling and cherishing how fulfilling it is to have so much love in your life. If your desire was for “more money”, maybe what you’d do right now is go relax in the sunshine for 10 minutes and enjoy the breeze – now that you have what you need you can rest. If your desire was for “more delight about work”, maybe what you’ll do right now is a bit more work you love, because that’s what you’d do right now if you were in love with your work.

By combining “The Secret” with complementary practices from other domains, we get a tool that gets the job done more quickly, more effectively, and with longer-lasting results. How else can you “melt the ice cube from all sides”(tm) ?

Try it and tell me your results, below!!

Curious,
Gail

New entry!

There’s a new entry on my personal blog, entries I don’t keep here, are there!

http://tiagail.wordpress.com/2008/09/02/catching-up-with-you/

Enjoy!
Gail

What are the 3 Bodies?

This content is an excerpt from a conversation.

Previously in the conversation we talked about empathy, mirroring, and what a reflection is. In
this post the conversation continues.

enjoy!
g

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this,
i believe is related to an earlier discussion you and i had with
regard to what i think you spoke of as the levels/stages of reflection.

Ah…now levels/stages is a totally separate topic from empathy/ reflection.

In KW’s work, we have 3 bodies, each body has an associated “state” of consciousness.

- gross/physical body – awake state
- subtle body – dream state
- causal body – deep-sleep state.

We are capable of recognizing each of these “states of consciousness” and “3 bodies”. When we are awake, there’s a physical, tangible world. When we’re dreaming, we see images, we feel emotions, but then we wake to find that our physical body has been just laying in bed for 8 hours. In the deep-sleep state we’re utterly peaceful, expansive, in a place of ‘no-thingness’.

So now think of the 3 bodies as an ever-expanding sphere.

In the gross/physical body, we have tangibles, we have body-centric sensations (first stage – if you stump your toe, suddenly you’re entirely hijacked by the body-experience….if we’re too hungry, over-tired, when we orgasm, all of these gross-body states can overwhelm us and are more visible / more present to us than the other states).

In the subtle body, we have intangibles – emotion, chakra sensations that are not associated with a particular organ (heart-break isn’t in the physical heart; a lump in your throat isn’t an actual lump), images (close your eyes and don’t think of pink elephants)… We can “do a guided meditation”, which is to say we can “expand beyond” our “simple bodymind personality experience”, for example into an “image of a crystal clear stream winding softly through a lush forest”. The images, emotions, and organ-independant sensations in our bodies belong to the subtle-body. Ever “sense” when someone is staring at you? Subtle field. Ever “feel” an angry person from across the room without looking? Subtle body. Ever have a great night where you felt like a million bucks, and you walk into a room and the whole room turns to look at you, because your energy body radiates into the entire room? Subtle field. Enough of that…close your eyes and “go to your happy place”.

In the causal body, we “expand” beyond image, imagination, or bodymind emotions. In this “peak state”, common experiences include feeling utterly at peace, utterly infinite, feeling one with everything, feeling as if you Are Everything. Non-duality is a discussion among those who’ve had causal “peak” experiences. Ever experience feeling one with nature? Causal peak experience.

Let’s not confuse causal oneness with the non-differentiated infant who feels one with everything, though. First we are non-differentiated, then we differentiate, then we are capable of differentiation but also capable of oneness.

Likewise, Deida refers to 3 Stages – first we’re me-centric, then i differentiate others and become “we-aware”, then i become aware of something beyond “us” into something far greater. 1st, 2nd, 3rd stage. Likewise, if I’m having a “1st stage moment” i’m probably focused on the toe i stumped that hurts, or the growl in my stomach (all gross-body phenomena). If I’m having a 2nd stage moment I’m probably doing an “I’m ok, are you ok?” we-space check. If I’m having a 3rd stage moment I’m capable of tuning into and taking care of me, I’m capable of tuning into and taking care of you / other / us….and now I can – as an act of art, as full choice, as an expanded act connected into a far larger system than the personalities of you and me, make another choice that transcends you, me, or even the system of the tangible world…

1st, 2nd, 3rd.

I think we were talking about the 3 stages relative to Sasha’s growth (or yours, for that matter, in terms of your needs-consciousness). Previously, you were largely unexpressed about your needs in terms of making requests (a 1st state area of development) but you’d try to meet your needs subversively. In the 2nd stage, we get masterful at making requests to meet our own needs in a way that also is in concert with the needs of the other. In 3rd stage practice, we can now adeptly attend to our needs, attend to others’ needs, or drop needs altogether and transcend them into our Infinite Self, or we can include them and play the bodymind like an instrument and choose to attend, or refuse to attend, to needs as a face of Love, as an experiment in “What Opens Us/Other/System/Infinite more fully?”.

Ask me questions if any of this sounds fuzzy – i’ve had Pinot Noir tonight. *wink*

Returning Guest

Wow – it’s been a long time since I made a blog post. (Why does that sound like something you’d say in Confession?)

Partially it’s travel. Partially it was the heartbreak of losing Grady, and all of the noise that emerged from that that I was processing. Partially it was me getting in my own way, self-editing and re-self-editing and re-self-editing until I don’t do anything but hide in corners anyway.

Meanwhile life goes on, the players come and go.

So I think I’m a “returning guest” to my life.

I’m learning to lighten up.

Some, anyway.

Now, where did I put those 40 blog post drafts that I started and was too afraid to finish….

Here we go…